June 14, 2011 2 Comments
There are a lot of “life events” about to occur in my life. Specifically,
- A new baby to arrive any day now.
- A professional transition, to where has yet to be determined.
- A probable relocation to a new city.
Many would say “Wow, you must be stressed, that’s too many “life events” happening at the same time”. In fact a quick Google search of “life events” yields pages of articles, advice and tests associated with the stress of certain life events. According to one test, I have had 9 life events in the past 12 months and registered an off the charts score of 302, which gives me an “80% susceptibility of stress-related illness”. Phooey, I’ve never been healthier.
The reality is I’m filled with excitement about the various adventures and changes that are taking place. Life is good. Baby G is about to enter this world and join our family, it’s an exciting new chapter beginning in my life. And while I will deeply miss TrueCar, a company I helped create from the ground floor, and the incredible team of people I’ve partnered with for the last 4 years, I’m excited about getting engaged in a new opportunity and new challenges. Finally, while we’ve enjoyed a great quality of life in Los Angeles and may stay awhile longer, we are considering a handful of other markets where we would love to live and be closer to family. Priorities after all.
Sure, there’s plenty of uncertainty in our future, but as an entrepreneur I’m used to uncertainty, ambiguity and chaos – the only thing certain about a startup is that it’s wrought with uncertainty! For me, its all about perspective. A narrow view of all these events could yield thoughts of concern and unending questions of “what if”. What if I can’t find a fulfilling job? What if I can’t provide for my new family? What if we move to a new city and hate it?
A healthier, broader perspective would lead to appreciation of my current situation and a focus on creating the outcomes I want in each of these life events. The reality is this – My family is not going to be homeless or live in a shelter as nearly 1.6M did in 2009 in the U.S. alone. My family will not go hungry or live in extreme poverty. We will not face genocide or live in fear of our lives as so many do in this world. Our child will have healthcare and an education. And Renee and I will have each other if everything else fails. I’ll repeat, its all about perspective.
I’m happy and probably more relaxed and excited about my future than I have been in some time, certainly over the past year. And right now I’m focused solely on welcoming Baby G into our family and spending a few months being a new father. Everything else can wait.